Hmmm, my thoughts tonight will definitely be different from most of my
articles. I have touched on so many emotions in the past and I am still
feeling the need to share yet another. I have spoken on women's issues
mainly, yet trying to keep men on a fair plain, mainly due to the facts
and studies that more women experience self-esteem issues and jealousy
monsters than men. Most of our emotions are gender friendly, except of
course the ever so dreaded PMS and Menopause thingy. Although I have
heard in passing that men do go through Menopause in a similar way.
I will leave that for another article! (wink) If you have noticed
throughout my articles, that I have tried to remind everyone that I am
speaking of both genders, even if I keep saying women. This is after
all, a take off from my women's self-esteem website.Well.. it is going to be about "SEX"! Now I know I have your attention.
Is it not strange how anything that has the word, "SEX" in it, catches
every ones eyes. Oh, do not even say, "Not me". It is a three letter
word that has more punch than Mohhamad Ally`s fist. No offence meant
there. On a more serious note, SEX is definitely a key in ones well
being, or higher self esteem. When we feel sexy, we can jump the
highest wall and climb the tallest mountain. Yes, I am speaking to
adults on this one. After all, it is when we reach adulthood that life
becomes so complicated, and all the insecurities begin to control ones
mind. We also find"SEX". It is so a part of what makes a very stable
beginning to a relationship, which one hopes flows into a marriage
partnership. Again, please do not say, "I never had premarital SEX". My
parents had it, so I know everyone else in the world did too. Okay, I
will maybe let 10 people get away with it. I am trying to incorporate
self-esteem with relationships because a lot of what goes on between a
man and a woman will trigger off ones deep inner emotions such as self
esteem.
I have asked a few people of both genders, this
question: "Why do people eventually forget what they have at home?" Is
it because one or both have stopped trying to impress the other? Hmmm.
Why would one stop trying to look good for their mate? Do you want your
mate to fantasize of someone else in order to have SEX? (harsh, I know,
but it is a truth) Do you talk to you mate in bed? Why not? After and
during SEX, is the best time to talk to each other. Life is sweet after
SEX and no one wants to get off the "Good feeling plateau". The answers
I received were shrugged shoulders to start with, which is really sad.
It was more like, "DUH". One man actually was excited to give his
answer, "Damn, I agree". That was about it. Again I say, "Sad"! Men and
Women need to learn how to talk. I mean talk about their true grit
feelings. Example: "Baby, am I sexy enough for you, I mean is there
anything I can do to make you want me more?" Or if you desires
something different from yours partner in SEX, you should be able to
ask it without the fear of hurting the others feelings. Or having to
calm them down from an, "Oh, so you don't like me the way I am?"!!! We
all fall into a first impulse scenario, especially if we have even the
slightest insecurity. SEX is suppose to be fun and open and raw. Women,
listen to me now, your man loves your body, he really does. SEX is non
judgemental. That's what I like about it. Passion through SEX is the
most natural emotion that we have been blessed with. Why? It is because
it is involving true emotion, there is no room for worry or before
thoughts, which I call fabricated emotions. Once we have turned the
wheels of the SEX engine, we are good to go. It is pure and clearly
set.
Our bodies become our maps to nothing but good feelings
and becoming one with our partner. Our partner is no more thinking of a
movie he saw, or the perfect person that crossed their paths, than they
are about work the next day. It is just the two of you, it is purely
sweet SEX. We allow ourselves through our weaknesses to put up walls
that keep us from opening our self to our partner. We know we crave
them to become one with us, to inhale their oh so sweet body smells,
and to feel the sexual adrenaline flow through our veins. Is that not
enough to break down the walls of worry and insecurities? Many partners
do not even know whats going on when their partners are in this stage
of detachment. They will be tempted to take it as a rejection. We all
know that once we feel rejected, we tend to not ask questions, thus
closing the doors. SEX is totally the last thing on your mind when you
feel that, resulting in both parties now setting up walls. What I am
saying here is that it is soooo important to communicate with your
partner. If you do not feel sexy or you just think maybe you smell bad,
(shush), you are committed to tell them. When one knows that the other
is not into SEX because they are feeling low about themselves, the norm
will actually try very hard to break down those damn insecurity walls.
That's where TRUST and SEX are joined. With out those two friends,
there is noooo orgasms. I know everyone luvz those. To get orgasms you
must engage in SEX. There is no need for words, or I dids, or I did
not`s. It is just REAL FEELINGS between two people. Can you actually
say after SEX with your partner, that you feel low or insecure?
NOPE!..well HELLO then, maybe it is time to look at SEX as not just a
perk in a relationship. Time to look at SEX as an answer to bringing
your lows to highs. People pay good money for therapists, and ruin
their bodies taking drugs to get those feelings. WHY, when we have the
cure right in front of us? And with a willing partner at your feet to
do your bidding? Need I say more? It's probably the first thing one
shuts down when they feel their self esteem taking the wrong turn.
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