The Golden Rule: "NO Means NO." Anyone may say "NO" at any time, for any reason! If you are in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say no. Do not jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this life_style_, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will just because you are afraid to say no. Be honest initially, and you will avoid any misunderstandings. Don't forget that people's attitudes change and who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different opinion.

Always Treat One Another With Respect. After all, this is a party!!! Besides, you don't want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn't want it to happen to you.

If You are Rejected (and it happens to everyone, including women), do NOT Take Personal Offense. Rejection is a very personal thing, but please do not make a scene. It is almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Honesty with each other is crucial. Who knows? You could end up with a friend if you handle the situation right.

Deal With Jealousy Head On! It is a normal reaction. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth losing over swinging.

Always Let Your Steady Partner Know He/She is Number One. Arrive together, take time to caress your partner, touch _base_ often; it makes one feel secure. Honor any and all prior understandings, and always leave together. Above all, COMMUNICATE with each other.

Use Your Common Sense When You Are Involved in a Swinging Situation. Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Swingers are people, too!!

Respect the Guidelines You Set as a Couple and Communicate Them to Prospective Partners. Open, honest communication is imperative to forming relationships! And please don't forget to respect the guidelines of others. Don't try to "talk others into" changing their rules because you don't happen to agree with them.

Do NOT use it as a band-aid for a shaky relationship. If you are trying to correct problems in your relationship, this won't work for you! This Life_style_ Is a Lot of Fun, and Can be Used as a Tool to Meet Friends.

Pay Attention to Body Language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you are talking with and it will tell you more than the conversation you are having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them uncomfortable or happy and excited.

Demand Absolute Discretion! And be worthy of the same. Discretion is paramount in this life_style_! Privacy is imperative!!! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private.